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There Are No “Shades” Of Christianity



My brother-in-law Adam is known for saying, “It’s all about relationships!” He says that in the context of a business owner (Adam’s Car Wash Service) in networking with people. Yet it can also be said and applied to God’s word. From Genesis to Revelation, it is all about relationships; relationships of husbands and wives, families, nations, and God to his people.

Unlike the soft porn movie, 50 Shades of Grey, relationships should be honored and respected, does anything else matter? On your death bed are you going to want to be surrounded by all the things you purchased? Or will it be the people you love and cherish.

The ultimate relationship is our personal connection with God. Though the world thinks He is all about rules and shall not’s, we know he is about grace and drawing us back to Him. Which is precisely why Jesus came to earth, to restore our relationship back to the Father. There are no “shades” of Christianity. You are either in or out. This is one relationship you want to get right, why? Because your eternity is in the balance.



wife, author, pastor



The Day My Husband Lost His Job


Coolest-Clocks06God set us up. Let me rather say God prepared us for what was to come. It began with a study on money. What God says about money and how to handle it his way. I thought I was going to blog a series on money or teach it in Bible study. But something changed and the Lord led me back to the beginning of my lesson. “God is My Source.” my title read. I had learned through scriptures that God is my source for provision, not a paycheck, business, or person.

“But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.” –Dt. 8:18

I was thoroughly convinced it was God who provided the paycheck, business, job, or ability to make money. Yet, the Lord would not let me leave the topic. I just could not move on.

Then my husband lost his job.

He called me that morning on his way back home. He was with that company for 13 years. We had a 401K and stocks. As he went on and explained what happened all I could say was “ok, ok”. When he got home we prayed and then had a long talk. We decided right then to stand on God’s word and believe that He is our provider.

“The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.” –psalm 23:1

We made up our mind we weren’t going to be moved by our feelings or the situation. Feelings has no place in our faith. The next few days my husband would receive, money, food, and two job offers! It was as if God was telling us, I have you, don’t worry.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” –phil. 4:19

My husband was let go just two days before Christmas, but despite that we decided to enjoy Christmas and New Years day anyway. After New Years day my husband became a business partner with my brother-in-law Adam. Unknown to us Adam had been praying for Art to be a partner with him in his business! God answered both their prayers.

I want to leave you with a few tips, just in case you find yourself in a similar situation.

— Don’t panic. You must stay calm so you can think better.

— Trust God. It is no surprise to him what you are going through. He has already worked out a plan to help you, let him.

— Stand on your faith. Believe what God says in his Word. This is the time to walk the talk!

— Be frugal with what you have and make smart choices with your money.

— Seek support from family and friends. Let them know what happened so you don’t feel alone.

Until next week!


wife, author, pastor

Why I Have Meetings With My Husband




I don’t know what it’s like at your house, but here we have a lot happening on a daily basis. There are different aspects of our lives colliding with each other. To keep our peace and to be in agreement with one another, my husband and I have weekly meetings. That may sound odd but it truly is a godsend.

We simply write out a list of things we need to discuss. Get rid of all distractions and then go through each item one by one. We talk about the facts and our concerns then come to a decision together, though my husband has the final word. We started having meetings a while back when the Lord called us to start a church. The responsibility was huge! We knew nothing about planting a church. So as we grew in knowledge and information so did our need to meet and discuss these things on a regular basis.


I want to give you three reasons or benefits to meeting with your husband or wife on a regular basis.

1. You and your spouse are in agreement with each other; this is important. The Bible says, “…a household divided against itself will not stand.” mt. 12:25

2. You are both taking responsibility for the issues in your lives. Too many people play the “blame” game, and never mature enough to become responsible adults.

3. You and your spouse have a game plan! That in itself takes off the burdens of worry you may be carrying. It puts you in control of a situation instead of the other way around. Everyone needs a plan!

Our list is short for our meeting. Something’s require more in-depth planning than others. The important thing here is that as husband and wife you tackle your issues together. Keep your emotions in check and be patient with one another, then you will be fine. This simple meeting with your spouse will help develop your marriage into a healthy, productive relationship.


wife, author, pastor