Marriage was God’s idea. Sex was God’s idea. God is good don’t you think! What some people don’t realize is sex was created for married couples. However, sex outside the context of marriage is a sin, which is called fornication.
“Nevertheless to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” 1 Cor. 7:2 King James Version
Our Heavenly Father has a lot to say about marriage. For the followers of Christ it would be wise if we knew what a godly marriage looked like. After all, the world is trying to redefine marriage, though they never created it in the first place. It’s as if they think they can do a better job than God! The creation is never above nor better than the creator.
So let’s lay it all out on the table. The good, the bad, and the ugly. It may take a few posts, but stay with me for the next few weeks. I encourage your comments and shares. But for now let’s get started.
“Then the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” Genesis 2:7 NIV
In the beginning, God created man first and at the same time setting the divine order of the family unit. The man is to be the head of the family. So husbands take your positions, in a loving way of course. Now there are some men who, shall we say, are shy about taking their positions as head of house. Therefore the wives step up and take the role themselves. Some women are able and quite willing to be head of the family. But ladies, that is not your place. The Bible says,
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians 5:22-23 NIV
I remember one time as I was learning my place as a wife, the Lord taught me a good lesson. I was having a hard time giving up control over our area of finances. Don’t get me wrong, my husband was very capable of making decisions about our money and bills. However, I wanted to oversee all of that too.
I was complaining to the Lord about it one day. That it was very hard for me to let go and trust my husband completely with those decisions. Jesus spoke to me and said, “Then trust Me to help your husband with those decisions.” Which I did. I realized the Lord was helping my husband as much as he was helping me. He is no respecter of persons. After that it was so much easier to let go and let my husband take over.
I know some of you women are genius with finances and if you and your husband agree for you to be in charge of the money, that’s ok. But for us it was best for Art to handle it all. I want to close by taking you back to the beginning; to Adam and Eve. I want you to notice where Adam was in this verse when Eve took the forbidden fruit.
“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” Genesis 3:6
Yes, you read that right, Adam was with her. He just stood by and let the serpent deceive his wife and disobey God. He stood by in silence not taking his position of authority. Therefore man fell and was separated from God because of their sin. And now we needed a Savior. We needed Jesus Christ to set things right again.
So this week I ask that you observe your places in the family; Wives and husbands. Does your positions need adjusting? If so do it in love and in baby steps. Wives step back a little so the husbands can step up.
Until next week,
With pen in hand
Author of FADE and Heaven is Near. www.bethelightministries.net